Monday, July 13, 2009

Successful Life!!

Just when I think I have learned the way to live, 'life changes'!! - Hugh Prather


That’s absolutely true. Life is an ever changing phenomenon. Even though I have known this for a long time, I still get surprised to witness some of surprises that spring in every now and then. Just when life seems to be alright, you hit a rock, which leaves you all shaky and shady.
From past few weeks, I have become an uncontrollable and irate character. I started to lose my cool and get perturbed over little discomforts. These agitations caused quiet a stir and left many of my relations wounded. My mood swings left me aghast and drew me to contemplate at some of unacceptable comments made by me. After every conversation, a little introspection made me realize that I was losing the faith and temper over nothing. A little self confession as well as to my beloved ones helped me absolve my short comings.

When I looked back and tried to narrow it down to ground reality behind my disappointment, I zeroed on the fact I had become increasingly hysterical about the forthcoming changes as well as skeptical about the things around me. I was never like this before in my entire life. I was one optimistic guy you ever would have bumped into. But some of the surprises of the life were so mind boggling that I, myself, couldn’t able to comprehend them.

I think all of us might have this notion, while growing up, that, for some reason, we see ourselves, as special from anyone else. We feel we have a charisma of our own. We believe that we wouldn’t end up as that ‘someone’ who got bemused at the events of life and stood despondently and couldn't able to fathom the course of the life. But, my friend, reality hits us all, sooner or later. Life opens up the mirror of reality and forces you to peep into it to learn the reflection of your ordinary self. I know it is much more than to grasp, but it is the crude reality of life. We all have to come to terms with the reality and start to understand that life is one unsolvable enigma that kills you dearly.

I think ‘successful life’ is an oxymoron. There is no definition for a successful life and at the same time it is very subjective. If I had to define, I would say, a successful life is one in which one would recognize oneself thoroughly and comprehensively. Lot of time, we fail to understand what we really are and what we really meant for someone. First know thyself and then start pursuing the true meanings of your role in this closely knit, intricate society.

We all heard ‘to err is human!’ but that changing times have forced me to write it as, ‘an error makes one realize oneself human!’ At least that is what happened with me. I felt I knew myself very well, but I slowly realized that changes had crept in; I lost the ground while I was looking at the sky.

For now, I realize the importance of death. Death comes to one as respite from all these obscure and obfuscate tantrums of life. I know some guys out there would term this as a stand of pessimist. In my view, should you approach the death, then your view may be upheld, otherwise death is a gifted curse.

But, my friend, no matter what, ‘life goes on’!!